How do video conversations on Ourtime work?
This feature allows you to see each other and enjoy the moment together without having to meet in person. This feature is available if you have already started a conversation with another person and have exchanged at least four messages. Why should you try it? A video call is a more authentic, more sincere way to connect with someone. It allows you to confirm the chemistry between you and deepen the emotions you have shared during your first written exchanges.
If you’re making the call…
- In your conversations, tap the camera icon that will appear in the top right corner of your screen on your smartphone or computer.
- Discover our tips to make the most of video conversations in complete confidence and safety. Remember to take the time to get to know each other better before you share personal information like your address and phone number.
If you receive the call
- There’s no pressure and you are under no obligation. If it’s not the right time to talk, just refuse the video call. And don’t worry – you won’t offend anyone. Your caller will just see that the call didn’t connect, not that you refused it.
- If you accept the video call, do it with confidence and peace of mind. If you ever experience inappropriate behaviour, report it to us live or as soon as the conversation is over by clicking on the “report” button. Feel free to end the conversation whenever you wish.
Get ready for your live video conversation
Choose the right moment
You have been writing to someone you like (and who likes you!) for several days now and you want to get to know them and talk more spontaneously with them? It’s time to share a moment together with a video conversation.
Suggest the idea and decide together what would be the best time to talk by video. Think about this call as special appointment, a bit like meeting for the first time in real life, since you will be able at last to talk as you see each other! It is important for you to both get ready and be in the right mood to share this moment.
The video call shows you both want to take the next step in the moments you want to share together. It’s more than a simple phone call: your first video conversation deserves to be treated as a special occasion so you can create and enjoy a pleasant experience you’ll want to repeat.
First of all, choose the location in your home where you will make your video call. The living room is often the best choice, because it allows you to sit comfortably on your sofa and give the other person a glimpse of your home. The kitchen is also a nice place to be, as it’s a place where you can be together that feels homely and relaxed.
Focus your attention on the elements that are in view of the camera and thus will be visible to your partner on the other side of the screen. A windowsill, books, a mirror or green plants are pleasant visual elements that create a warm atmosphere. Avoid showing photos or other very personal things if you don’t want to give too much away too quickly.
Take care of the lighting! Make the most of natural light if you call each other during the day by moving closer to a window, but make sure the sun is behind the screen lighting your face or your partner won’t be able to see you. Also take advantage of the softer, warmer light in the late afternoon, when the sun begins to fade. If it’s raining or you’re calling in the evening, turn on some indirect lights to create a softer atmosphere.
Finally, don’t have your computer screen or smartphone too close to your face. Rest it on the coffee tablet for example, so you can be freer in your movements, and you can express yourself and show your emotions. You’ll feel more and more like you’re facing each other, just like in a bar or restaurant, which will mean help you be more relaxed. Finally, check your smartphone or computer is charged or that your charger is nearby. There’s nothing more frustrating than running out of battery power when you still have so much to talk and share.
How do you start the conversation?
The advantage of video calls on Ourtime is that they are only available to pairs of singles who have already sent several messages to each other. So you should already be at the stage where you can naturally resume the course of your conversation or just ask them how their day went! You don’t need to have anything extraordinary to say; the most important thing is to be attentive and show your interest. As you know from experience, when two people share a connection, the conversation flows naturally and silences you share are as pleasant as the words you exchange.
Let your imagination and creativity run wild
Make your video conversations the ideal time to show your fun, spontaneous side. For example, you can get to know each other better the playful way, by making your own list of questions:
“The thing you did that you’re most proud of…”
“The person you admire for their boldness and courage…”
“Your fondest memory from your trip”
“What do you like most about where you live…”
“The world would be a better place if…”
“What’s the craziest experience you’d like to have?”
We have a lot of experience in bringing people together, so trust us when we say that humour and playfulness play a big role in seduction. Relationship experts agree that laughing together is essential to nourish a relationship and build stronger couples. It’s up to you!
You can also script your video conversation, for example by calling at dinner time. You’ll each have prepared a nice table, lit a few candles, and maybe even cooked the same dish. You’ll feel like you’re sharing a real-fake dinner at a restaurant. You can also try simpler version by making yourselves a drink, as if you were at a bar.
Finally, why not share a stroll together? Plug in your headphones and get some fresh air together while you’re waiting for the chance to do it side by side.
As you can see, these shared video moments offer a wide variety of personalized opportunities to spend quality time with people who share your view of life.
Because now, more than ever, it’s our time to love life together.