Just like in real life, you need to be as charming-as-can-be when you’re online dating, so you can build attraction and get to know each other better. Here are 6 things women over 50 don’t want to hear, and 6 things you could say instead to get her interested.

  1. DON’T: “My ex-wife used to really like going to.…” –
    DO: “That’s interesting, I’ve been there before too. What did you like about…”
    Focus on the future that you might want to build with your potential date, not the past
  2. DON’T: “Good.”
    DO: “It was good thanks. I just finished watching [program], which was [entertaining], how was your day?”
    One word answers are boring and unattractive; be inquisitive and forthcoming, and help get the conversation going.
  3. DON’T: “I’m horny.”
    DO: “I love how that dress looks on you”
    Save blunt flirting for later – or never – when you know for sure you’re interested in each other. Be charming, not coarse, and don’t say anything that might make her feel uncomfortable.
  4. DON’T:“Are you there?”
    DO: Say nothing, and don’t pester
    Not immediately responding messages doesn’t mean you should assume we’re not interested. Be patient, and don’t pester. If after two or three messages the person you’re messaging doesn’t seem interested in talking, move on.
  5. DON’T: “You’re perfect”
    DO: “I’d really like to get to know you better”
    If we haven’t even met, there’s so much more about me you have to discover. Saying it early makes your words insincere.
  6. DON’T: “Why have we been talking all this time then?”
    DO: Move on, and don’t pester
    Don’t vent your frustrations over a rebuttal or a conversation that ended unexpectedly; it won’t get you anywhere. Spend a little time to try to figure out why – although it’s likely you will never know for sure – then just move along

Use these tips and start messaging and dating like minded young people over 50 on Ourtime.